Hello Ladies welcome back…..I’m excited about this week blog post ☺️ and what I’m going to talk about this week is “The List” ahhhh yes yes yes. Ladies get out your pen and a peice of paper and start the writing. But first let me say this, Do you know that God knows our deepest deepest desires? And if you desire a husband or to be married. God knows that, don’t allow the enemy to trick you into believing you’ll never find a husband. Or if you’ve been married before don’t allow the enemy to make you believe you won’t find love again, because you will. God knows all of your desires, after all he is the one who placed them in you. Isn’t he amazing he gives you those desires and then says believe me for them. Only God right! He also knows how to get you there. He even knows the things you don’t even know you need. So why not let him choose your mate for you, because he’s gonna send you the type of man you didn’t even know you needed. Ok ok back to the topic “The List”. So what I want you to do is write down what you desire in a man. And I’m not talking about…”God I want him to be 6’2 Dark skin, hazel eyes with abs, muscles and driving a Bentley. NO! That stuff does not matter and those things will fade. Write down what you desire him to be on the inside. Write down what you desire as far as his characteristics. Do you want him to be honest, trustworthy a family man, hard worker, a dreamer etc. The outside is a very small part of it, and that should not be what it’s all about. His muscles can’t save a marriage when you two hit a ruff patch. But his honesty can, him being a hard worker can. We have been trained to size up a man by looking at his shoes or what he drives. But you don’t even know, that man can be so rotten on the inside. 

    I have a friend and her sister started dating a guy who worked at Pizza Hut, but he was also was going to school. He was going to school to be an accountant but was working at Pizza Hut. I don’t know how the story went but I could imagine if Your going in to order some pizza and the pizza guy started flirting with you how many of y’all wouldn’t have even let him make it past hello? Lol Anywho so she started dating the guy and her family and friends didn’t understand at the time. But she seen potential in him, he was honest, gentle a hard worker going to school studying hard. She was right by his side encouraging him pushing him supporting him. Long story short they are married with two kids and just bought a brand new home which is huge might I add. I’m saying this to say, you can miss the man God has for you because your looking at him on the outside but not looking within not seeing his potential. Now of course you need to have your deal breakers. Deal breakers are somethings you know you won’t tolerate. Like if he smokes or drinks or he’s not a Christian or maybe if he’s not completely sold out for Christ. Ladies I’m telling you this now the hardest thing a woman could do is try to make a man want God more than he does. The bible says

    “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?” ‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭6:14‬ ‭ESV‬‬

    I put it like this, Jesus has been knocking on that man’s heart long before you arrived and if doesn’t answer for him. What makes you think he will for you? Now if your married, you stay in that marriage and keep praying for him. But if your not that should be a deal breaker and that’s just my opinion. A man is suppose to lead his family it’s the structure of God the word says 

    “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,” Ephesians‬ ‭5:25‬ ‭ESV‬‬

    Christ Leads his church, he gave his life for the church. Just as a man is suppose to lead his family. He sacrifices him self God, his wife and children. Just like Christ sacrificed himself for the church. You can’t make someone Love God just like you can’t make someone Love you, they have to want it for themselves. Anyway Sorry got a little side track. So put everything down on that list of you want him to have. It could be a strong relationship with God that’s stronger than yours if so, Put that down. If you would love for him to be a teacher. Put that down. If you want him to be a provider etc. Don’t just think oh that’s a given. No write it ALL down. The scripture says 

    And the Lord answered me, and said, Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that readeth it. For the vision is yet for an appointed time, but at the end it shall speak, and not lie: though it tarry, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not tarry.” ‭‭

    Habakkuk‬ ‭2:2-3‬ ‭KJV‬‬

    I Loovvveee that scripture it blesses me everytime I read it. Your husband is a vision. You have a vision of being married one day to a awesome man of God right? So write it all down!!! Because it surely will come, it will NOT tarry. That something to get excited about. Speaking of getting excited writing what you desire builds some type of an expectancy the word says expectancy is the breeding ground for miracles, so babe get ready for your miracle. I know you said to yourself if I ever get married it would be a miracle lol well here it comes. 

    Another reason you should make “The List” is because have your vision right there in front of you on that peice of paper. It’s your agreement with God. Now if the devil tries to send you someone you can be like “uh uh an enemy has done this”. This is not what I have on my list. This is not what me & God agreed on. Like I said in my last blog post your days of tripping up on the wrong guy is OVER!! Also sign it and write x________ God this is the type of husband I’m believing you for. 

    And when he does come, and things just start checking off that list. Wooooo What a glorious and also fearful day it would be. I know it was for me. I was like OMG this is him, my husband with tears of joy and fear at the same time but God is Good. So what are you waiting for write it today!!!!!  🙏 


    4 thoughts on ““The List”

    1. Thank you so much for sharing.
      When I was single, I made two lists. One of about my future husband. The other list was for me. I looked at my future husband’s list and asked myself, “What kind of women does my future husband need me to be to support him as the spiritual leader in our family?” I worked on my list so I was ready to be the wife God intended me to be for my husband when he found me.

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    2. I made my “list” a few years ago before I met Peter and he surpasses them. I always tell people I married up because he was more than what I could ask for.

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