Hello Ladies welcome back, & hello to you if this is your first time reading my blog. I’m so overwhelmed by the encouragement and support I’ve been getting from the start of this blog. I just wanted to say thank you, thank you, thank you. By God’s grace I’m able to share what I’ve been through and what God has shown me in my “Wait Season” so I have been where you currently are. 
So what I want to talk about this week is becoming the woman you desire to see in your future husband. What do I mean? I’m glad you asked. When I was single and I was visiting my mom in New York, we would have these talks. She told me something I’ll never forget. She said, “Shaleena if you want a better man, become a better woman” at first I said to myself that doesn’t make any sense. A man should take me as I am. That was my worldy mindset that I had to quickly get rid of. So I thought to myself, ok what do I want in my husband. All the things I wanted in him, I needed to be doing or striving to do for myself. Example If you don’t desire your husband to be a clubber, drinker, or smoker. Then maybe you should work on those things for yourself. If you desire him to be a go getter. What dreams are you trying to aspire? If you desire him to be honest, trustworthy, and faithful. When you become one with your mate you are a reflection of him. So what is your reflection saying ? Can you honestly say that you uphold these qualities? Hmmm good one right? I know it was good to me when God first showed me. The thing is that we attract who we are. The scripture says, 

“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.”-Matthew‬ ‭6:33‬ ‭KJV‬

This scripture is so powerful, seek the kingdom of God and all his righteousness. What does this mean to me? We first must understand how the kingdom of God operates and its the complete opposite of how this world operates. We must attain the qualities of God’s kingdom. Which is all of his characteristics. Then the scripture goes on to say and all these things shall be added unto you. What are these thing? Your desires! All the things you desire within to have, will come to you. “You attract what you become”. Yes 🙌 that is so good!!!  
You was wondering, what can I do while I’m waiting for my husband. Here’s your answer become a better wife, because a wife is who you are not what you will be. The scripture says,

“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.”-Proverbs‬ ‭18:22‬ ‭NIV‬‬

It doesn’t say he who finds a woman and turns her into a wife. He who finds a wife. Ladies you are not only wifey material. You are a wife, so start walking in it. There are always areas in our lives that God wants us to grow in. He always shows us those areas in love because he truly desires the best for his daughters. Once I got this revelation I stepped into my role hunny lol. I started cooking and cleaning, working out. Putting my self on a schedule, learning about time management etc. I even went so far as talking to my husband as if he was already there. I was like what you want for dinner hunny, while my furniture starred back at me. I had to believe that thing. The devil will try to make you believe that you’ll never be married and you will be lonely for the rest of your life. For one your never alone because Jesus is with in you and he left his comforter, which is the Holy Spirit. Don’t believe the lies of the enemy. The scripture says he is the father of lies. Rebuke and cast down those thoughts don’t let him just speak anything to your spirit. Kick him out your mind and start Walk in it ladies. 💕

If you want your “Boaz” you have to become a “Ruth”


22 thoughts on ““Be The Woman You Desire To See In Your Future Husband”

  1. wow great advice! your only going to attract the right men if you are the right women seeking after God’s own heart. Maybe even attract some of the wrong men too but the right one will notice you as well.

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  2. I love that you shared the verse from Matthew 6. It really is true! I had been longing to meet my future husband and God graciously didn’t let me meet him until I had my heart totally surrendered to Him. It was when I was focused on Jesus (and not finding a guy) when my now husband came in to my life. Thanks so much for sharing this!

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  3. Excellent and Praiseworthy words. When your Mother said “Shaleena if you want a better man, become a better woman” she imparted great wisdom. Bless her heart for speaking truth and thank God for your teachable heart!

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  4. What excellent insights! I am one of those blessed guys who found what is good. I’ms so grateful for Jenny’s commitment to God, our children, and for her gentle and compassionate spirit. In short, I’m grateful for who she took the time to become before we were married, and I am incredible thankful and blessed by who she is now 🙂

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  5. Absolutely. Preparing yourself even before there is a “man in sight” is such a unique time. Not only are you becoming the woman God intended you to be, but a future husband will be blessed because of it! Thank you for sharing! Loved hearing about you working on time management and such prior to marriage…those are such great things to learn! May God continue to bless you and how He is using your blog to encourage many 🙂

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  6. Oooooh, I like how you found that little tidbit about how we are already wives, not that we will become wives..wish I had read this before I was married…but with that I hope to train up my daughter to be God’s bride and a wife if He sees fit!

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  7. “If you want your Boaz you have to become a Ruth. ”

    That made me stop for a moment. It made me thankful that despite NOT being a Ruth I was given a Boaz. It made me thankful, oh so thankful that my God is more faithful than I am.

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