Hello Ladies & Gents, since there are males who read my blogs as well. How exciting. Today I’m going to talk to you about, how to recognize if he’s the one. You could be dating someone now, or you may just be curious to know, how will I know it’s him when he comes. Great I’m here to show you what God has shown me. Before my husband came and even after. Men have been appointed by God to be leaders in their home and in the church. The role of the husband in the Bible starts with leadership. Scripture makes it very clear that a husband must be a leader of his home and have healthy control of his life. In 1 Corinthians 11:3, Scripture says, “But I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.


As we can see ladies, God desires our husbands to lead us, spiritually and physically. So whomever you are dating should posses these qualities in their characteristics. This may sound crazy but I believe the man you are dating or will later come in your life, should have a stronger relationship with Christ than you. Hey! I can only give you what God has given me. But why isn’t there more men in the church? Why does the women population out weigh the men population? Here’s the answer; If you want to take a body out, you aim for the head. Think about it, if men are suppose to be the head of the house and leaders in the church, and there is an enemy on the loose. Who is he going to attack the most? Yup that’s right our MEN!! If you look at this generation and the generation before they call it “the fatherless” generation. It hurts my heart but we can see left and right families are being torn apart. Men are leaving the church and their homes. Children growing up without an active father in their lives. Men desiring to be women, and the list goes on. I’m just pointing out what I see. There is an attack on our men, that’s why us as women need to pray more for our men. 

Now the thing with men, us women can not change them. Or even help them grow into a deeper relationship with God. Believe me I tried several times in my life complete FAIL. They have to want it for themselves. The only one that can change a man is Christ himself. Why? because it’s the order of God. Us as women were never designed to lead. A man can lead a women into a deeper relationship because it’s God divine order. The man is designed to lead. Christ is designed to lead the man. You can pray & pray but it will be such a struggle that you would ask yourself, is this all worth it? But if your married that’s a different story you must stay in that marriage and pray for your husband, but we want to avoid that because only the strong survive that outcome. I wouldn’t advice you to marry if this sounds something like the relationship your in now. But that’s a another topic for another day. 

This is what the bible talks about when it says do not be unequally yoked. In 2 Corinthians 6:14, you can go and read that for yourself.

“If a man is not bringing you closer to God, he’s bringing you closer to himself.”

His wants, his needs, how he think things should go, his plan for his future etc. All of his action and goals are governed around him and not Christ. You will know “God” is sending you your husband when his life is Christ centered. Not based on how he makes you feel, what he has done for you, how he’s active in the church. Here’s a hard one to swallow, even if you have children together. What does his personal life with Christ looks like? Does he resemble the word of God? Ok ok I know your saying, we’ll what if he’s not like that. What if one day he’ll get there. Than I will say to you, then God didn’t send him. You as a Christian women who is growing into this relationship with Christ do you believe God will send you someone that will help your relationship with him, or hinder it? That’s like having a son and presenting him a wife that you know will interfere with your relationship with you and your son as his mother. Not gonna happen right? So why would God? I just want to say that this post is for believers who are currently single (Not Married), those who have a relationship with God. Now if you don’t believe in the principles of God than maybe this blog is not for you. But if you do then I strongly believe you should take heed to what God has given me to avoid tremendous heartbreak and feeling like you’ve missed it somewhere later down the road. ”

“The second most important decision in your life, besides making Christ your Lord and savior is who you choose as your husband.”

Your husband that’s sent from “God” will be the only man that will have a grace to handle you as a women and the calling on your life. God will give him that special grace. Anyone else will be a hinderance. How can you know if he’s the one? This is it all in a nutshell. Is his relationship with Christ deeper than yours, not his knowledge of Christ but his personal relationship when he leaves those church doors. Does it line up with the word of God? We as women we know, even if we don’t want to face it. We KNOW!! I pray as you read this blog God will open up your spiritual eyes to see what is of him and what is not. We have the power to choose, God will not force the one he has for us on us. We have to be wise enough to know and to wait on him and TRUST what he’s showing us. Don’t ignore the signs. Nip it in the bud at hello, if your spirit doesn’t connect with his life style. Don’t wait till months & years later when your emotions and heart is tied up in it. It’s harder to hear or see what God is saying concerning him. Your emotions will cloud your judgement.

“Listen to the Holy Spirit promptings, it will never fail you.”  

Till next time Love You Guys💕

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15 thoughts on “How Do I Know If He’s The One? 

  1. Love where you said” if a mans not bringing you closer to God hes bringing you closer to himself.” When I decided to date my husband I knew he was already the one because through our friendship he was leading me toward Christ more.

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  2. I love your quote: If a man is not bringing you closer to God, he is bringing you closer to himself. you’re absolutely right! I’m thankful my Hubby puts God first and understands our relationship with God is number 1! :)d

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  3. Being in communication with God about the man you’re dating, and hoping to be your husband is key. And yes he should have an equal or greater relationship with God… great points 😉


  4. I like to think of marriage as the best and most intimate way of being discipled. Husbands and wives have such important roles in this process. This interdependence can’t be underscored enough!

    Thanks for your post! 🙂

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  5. This is so true. I have learned the hard way how painful it is to choose someone that doesn’t lead me closer to Christ. I also really love your point about the attack on men, “the head”. I have never heard of it put like that. But if you look at society, it is so apparent. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this!

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  6. Beautifully put, right on the spot. Thanks & duly noted & Amen. Sometimes we think we did it just cause they go to church or head something up at church, but when they get behind church doors and they take their suit off what comes off with it

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