Are You Really Ready To Be A Wife?

Do you think being married is gonna solve some of your issues? Financial issues, loneliness issues, insecurities and the list goes on. Ignorance is truly the #1 reason for failed marriages. The bible says, “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge……‭‭Hosea‬ ‭4:6‬ ‭KJV‬‬  What biblical knowledge have you gained for becoming a wife? Are you reading books on marriage? Are you reading books on becoming more of a godly women and or mother etc? Are you meditating on scriptures? Or do you have a perception of, “I’m just gonna wait till the time comes.” That could be the very reason why it hasn’t come yet. Do you even desire for your marriage to be successful or your just waiting to try on a wedding dress?

 Are you mentally and physically preparing yourself to come to the realization that your life we no longer be about you? The bible says you are your husbands help meet. One thing that is hard for a women is to keep her mouth close. You have to develop a taimed tongue, I know this because it’s STILL a struggle of mine. I have gotten wayyyyyyyyyyyy better since I’ve been rededicated to the Lord. But God is continuously showing me things. Also he is still teaching me how to use my words. This is why it is imperative for you to wait on God and know that you know this is the man he has for you. There is a great humbling that will have to take place inside of you so that you are able to let him lead. EVEN if you do not agree with where he is taking you, and you might be sacred out your mind. The thing about a man of God that has a relationship with Jesus with your prayers God will correct him not you but the Holy Spirit. That just knocked off 89% of arguments the entire life spand of your marriage. lol Maybe. 

I challenge you to ask yourself why do I want to be married? If you believe, that if you have one man to love you, you won’t be so insecure about your body, think again. If you think you will have a less financial strains, think again. If you think you will finally have a warm body next to you every night, then you won’t feel lonely, THINK……again! No man on this earth can fill those voids. You must be confident in who you are as a woman and who you are in God. Your husband may not even compliment your beauty or that outfit as often as you may like him too. Is that going to send you in a deep depression? Or would it be something you can bring to his attention. This may even  take him 3yrs to finally grasp. If you understand who you are that won’t break you. It will actually give you compassion and grace towards your husband to help him get to that point. Especially when he’s a man of God, he will seek God on counsel in this area and God will teach him how to care for the women he has designed. Are you hoping having another income will benefit your life? What if God takes your job take his job and say ok now trust me. So I’m gonna ask again…
Why do you want to be married?  The purpose of marriage is to ut


“The List”

Hello Ladies welcome back…..I’m excited about this week blog post ☺️ and what I’m going to talk about this week is “The List” ahhhh yes yes yes. Ladies get out your pen and a peice of paper and start the writing. But first let me say this, Do you know that God knows our deepest deepest desires? And if you desire a husband or to be married. God knows that, don’t allow the enemy to trick you into believing you’ll never find a husband. Or if you’ve been married before don’t allow the enemy to make you believe you won’t find love again, because you will. God knows all of your desires, after all he is the one who placed them in you. Isn’t he amazing he gives you those desires and then says believe me for them. Only God right! He also knows how to get you there. He even knows the things you don’t even know you need. So why not let him choose your mate for you, because he’s gonna send you the type of man you didn’t even know you needed. Ok ok back to the topic “The List”. So what I want you to do is write down what you desire in a man. And I’m not talking about…”God I want him to be 6’2 Dark skin, hazel eyes with abs, muscles and driving a Bentley. NO! That stuff does not matter and those things will fade. Write down what you desire him to be on the inside. Write down what you desire as far as his characteristics. Do you want him to be honest, trustworthy a family man, hard worker, a dreamer etc. The outside is a very small part of it, and that should not be what it’s all about. His muscles can’t save a marriage when you two hit a ruff patch. But his honesty can, him being a hard worker can. We have been trained to size up a man by looking at his shoes or what he drives. But you don’t even know, that man can be so rotten on the inside. 

    I have a friend and her sister started dating a guy who worked at Pizza Hut, but he was also was going to school. He was going to school to be an accountant but was working at Pizza Hut. I don’t know how the story went but I could imagine if Your going in to order some pizza and the pizza guy started flirting with you how many of y’all wouldn’t have even let him make it past hello? Lol Anywho so she started dating the guy and her family and friends didn’t understand at the time. But she seen potential in him, he was honest, gentle a hard worker going to school studying hard. She was right by his side encouraging him pushing him supporting him. Long story short they are married with two kids and just bought a brand new home which is huge might I add. I’m saying this to say, you can miss the man God has for you because your looking at him on the outside but not looking within not seeing his potential. Now of course you need to have your deal breakers. Deal breakers are somethings you know you won’t tolerate. Like if he smokes or drinks or he’s not a Christian or maybe if he’s not completely sold out for Christ. Ladies I’m telling you this now the hardest thing a woman could do is try to make a man want God more than he does. The bible says

    “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?” ‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭6:14‬ ‭ESV‬‬

    I put it like this, Jesus has been knocking on that man’s heart long before you arrived and if doesn’t answer for him. What makes you think he will for you? Now if your married, you stay in that marriage and keep praying for him. But if your not that should be a deal breaker and that’s just my opinion. A man is suppose to lead his family it’s the structure of God the word says 

    “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,” Ephesians‬ ‭5:25‬ ‭ESV‬‬

    Christ Leads his church, he gave his life for the church. Just as a man is suppose to lead his family. He sacrifices him self God, his wife and children. Just like Christ sacrificed himself for the church. You can’t make someone Love God just like you can’t make someone Love you, they have to want it for themselves. Anyway Sorry got a little side track. So put everything down on that list of you want him to have. It could be a strong relationship with God that’s stronger than yours if so, Put that down. If you would love for him to be a teacher. Put that down. If you want him to be a provider etc. Don’t just think oh that’s a given. No write it ALL down. The scripture says 

    And the Lord answered me, and said, Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that readeth it. For the vision is yet for an appointed time, but at the end it shall speak, and not lie: though it tarry, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not tarry.” ‭‭

    Habakkuk‬ ‭2:2-3‬ ‭KJV‬‬

    I Loovvveee that scripture it blesses me everytime I read it. Your husband is a vision. You have a vision of being married one day to a awesome man of God right? So write it all down!!! Because it surely will come, it will NOT tarry. That something to get excited about. Speaking of getting excited writing what you desire builds some type of an expectancy the word says expectancy is the breeding ground for miracles, so babe get ready for your miracle. I know you said to yourself if I ever get married it would be a miracle lol well here it comes. 

    Another reason you should make “The List” is because have your vision right there in front of you on that peice of paper. It’s your agreement with God. Now if the devil tries to send you someone you can be like “uh uh an enemy has done this”. This is not what I have on my list. This is not what me & God agreed on. Like I said in my last blog post your days of tripping up on the wrong guy is OVER!! Also sign it and write x________ God this is the type of husband I’m believing you for. 

    And when he does come, and things just start checking off that list. Wooooo What a glorious and also fearful day it would be. I know it was for me. I was like OMG this is him, my husband with tears of joy and fear at the same time but God is Good. So what are you waiting for write it today!!!!!  🙏 

    “We all have believed a Lie”

    Hello Ladies first I would like to say thank you soooooo much for reading my 1st blog. 😄I’m super hyped lol God has been dealing with me about talking to single ladies, and sharing my personal experience and my relationship with God during  “My Wait” &  about “My Worth” for a while now. So you ladies def gave me that extra push. Thank You ☺️ So I named my blog website “Your Worth the Wait” because we all need to learn how to wait in God and also knowing our worth in God. Your worth is really how your “Heavenly Father” sees you. Through his eyes, not how this world or people view you or even how you view yourself. How we see ourselves doesn’t even come close to a fragmentation of how God sees us. I give anything just to have a moment to look through the eyes of God and see “Me” wow it would probably be a breath taking view.

    Any who, so I titled this post “We all have believed a lie” because we truly have, not only have we believed so many lies but have been shaped in our thinking ,to think what we think, about ourselves. I know, too many “thinks” but really, Jesus Christ gave the ultimate example of how much we are worth to him. I truly believe that God’s feelings are so hurt, by the way we see ourselves. I can imagine him saying, “my beautiful daughters, my creation, why are you walking around with low self esteem and your heads held low. I’ve done so much to show you that I Love you. That you are fearfully and wonderfully made, you are apart of a royal priesthood. When you accepted Jesus Christ as your savior, I have adopted you into my Kingdom. Can you hear his voice saying that to you?

    The way we were raised, what our parents did, what that family member did or friend no longer is an excuse for our insecurities. Jesus took those punishment for us when he went to the cross. We no longer have to accept that as our identity. We have a new identity in Christ. Ok I know your wanting me to get to the “Waiting on your husband part” lol but truly, what God 1st showed me in my “Wait Time” was “ME” he showed me my attitude, my past what I thought about my body and myself. How I gave the most valuable thing away at a young age. At the time I didn’t think it had any value, I believed that’s what you do if you felt like the guy deserved it from his interest in you. Which he did NOT. That was a lie.  I can remember one of my many alone times with God, and he brought me to this scripture:


    “But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvellous light:” ‭‭1 Peter‬ ‭2:9‬ ‭KJV

    ‬‬I read this passage and begin to cry like a baby, the reason I cried for  1. I thought to myself God considers me “Royalty”  really? 2 .Coming to Jesus really has opened my eyes. When I read the part in this scripture “I have called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.” That’s exactly how I felt, like I’ve been in darkness my whole life but he pulled me out! I can just shout right now…. One moment…


    “THANK YOU GOD!!!”

    Ok I’m back lol… Wooo I had to give it to him!! So..What do I mean I’ve been in darkness my whole life? I’ve been lied to! What I thought about my self has been a LIE. This world has shaped my views about who I am and it’s a Lie. I am a Child of God. We hear it all the time, but if I’m a child of God, I share with Jesus Christ in his rewards and in all of God’s royalty here on earth and in heaven. My “Beauty ” is not in my looks, or my shape or size or my hair. My beauty is in the one who made me He has made me in his image says my Bible in Genesis 1:27 and it’s not talking so much about how much we look like God, we are made in his image meaning his characteristics of Love, Joy, Peace, Gentleness, Patients, Kindness. These Characteristics is the definition of Beauty. We ALL carry these characteristics with in us, even if we show it only some of the time. 

    “Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.”-‭‭1 Peter‬ ‭3:3-4‬ ‭KJV‬‬

     That scripture says it all, another one of my Favs.  As we grow closer to God in our relationship with him the more these characteristics will poor over into our personality and we become more like Jesus!!  Glory to God! Ok So what does all of this have to do with “Waiting On My Husband” ?? Trust me it all ties in… So knowing your Worth in God will help you to build a standard. Not only what you think you deserve but what God thinks you deserve. Now your standards for you lines up with God’s standards for you. “Isnt that amazing?” A standard is put in place. So say if  any ol’ guy tries to come along and take your attention, you will  know in your heart that, wait a min. I am my Father’s prize possession and I KNOW this is not the man he has in mind for me. Now you can slowly give him the peace sign ✌ and be one more step closer to your Boaz. The days of tripping up over the wrong man is OVER. 

    Check this!! so while your waiting for God to send that husband, your relationship in God is getting stronger and stronger. And all that time spent with Jesus, that whole time….
     He was building a “Wife” in you!!!